Got a Girl Crush On: Katelyn Campbell, a West Virginia high school senior who’s standing up to bullying and slut shaming from her principal. When Katelyn spoke out against abstinence-only education at her school, her principal threatened to call the college she’ll be attending to tell them she has “bad character.”
Despite being threatened, Campbell is not backing down. She hopes that filing this injunction [with the ACLU] will protect her freedom of speech to continue advocating for comprehensive sexual health resources for West Virginia’s youth. “West Virginia has the ninth highest pregnancy rate in the U.S.,” Campbell told the Gazette. “I should be able to be informed in my school what birth control is and how I can get it. With the policy at GW, under [principal] George Aulenbacher, information about birth control and sex education has been suppressed. Our nurse wasn’t allowed to talk about where you can get birth control for free in the city of Charleston.”
Read more about Campbell here.
And then that college tweeted about how proud they were to have her! Fuck yeah Katelyn and Wellesley!
So, while going through various OKCupid profiles, I started paying attention to people’s explanations to why they would not consider having an open relationship.
I’ll state up front that most people who answered this question—either in the affirmative or the negative—did not offer any further explanation. However, for those who did choose to include a written explanation, those explanations very nearly always reflected the following sorts of sentiments:
- “I’m too jealous.”
- “I don’t like to share.”
- “I don’t like to share my man/woman.”
- “I want them to devote all their attention to me.”
This is the case across the board for men’s and women’s profiles, even though I only included quotes from women’s profiles above. And I’ve looked through thousands of profiles.
Am I the only one troubled by these explanations?
Not a single time did I see anyone state anything to the effect of, “I don’t want to be in an open relationship because I find that I best connect with one romantic partner at a time,” or, “I don’t want to be in an open relationship because I truly want to devote myself to one person in my life.”
No, the reasons people cite for ruling out open relationships basically boil down to, “I don’t want you to date anyone else because I would feel threatened and I would prefer that you lavish all your time, energy, and money on me instead.”
Don’t know about you, but that all sounds rather self-centered, possessive, and controlling to me.
As I have always stated, I have no problem with monogamy if that’s the choice that truly works best for any couple. But I have to wonder why so many people seem to choose monogamy out of insecurity and fear, rather than actually examining those insecurities and fears.
Three in Love (3人で愛しあいましょ? Sannin de Koishi Aimashou? , lit. Love Among Three People?) is a shōjo manga written by Shioko Mizuki, and published byAkita Shoten. In December 2007, Go! Comi announced their license of Three in Love at the annual New York Anime Festival; volume 1 was released in July 2008.
- 1 July 2008
- 30 November 2008
- 31 March 2009
I know what I want for Christmas!
I usually don’t reblog stuff like this because this is my art blog but this hit close to home and reminded me of so many conversations that made me feel like garbage.
It always makes me see red when I see lesbians (and gay men) treating bisexuals this way. I don’t think I can even type too much more without quickly reaching a point where I just smash my head into the keyboard.
Part of me expected to hear at least some of this when I started telling people that I was dating my boyfriend. Thankfully I’m lucky enough to be able to avoid surrounding myself with morons. Even my mum, who was difficult when I first came out as gay, said “Well, if you can be gay or straight, it makes sense that you could be bi.”